Friends

Plant a seed of friendship; reap a bouquet of happiness...Lois L. Kaufman


I like this place, this blogosphere as we refer to it.
This part of my life where I can connect with so many kindreds who share the same ideals, goals and interests as I do. Kindreds who honour my individual, unorthodox journey as a single mother.
This place where I can spill my truth and feel safe, feel understood, and even validated in walking the somewhat non-traditional, unconventional life paths I've chosen to explore.

My online journal...it began over 3 years ago as a sacred space to record my dreams, struggles, triumphs and experiences as a single mom.
An anonymous blog where my closet friends could bookmark and check out what me & hatchling were up to on any given day...a place that would cut down on time-consuming emails and phone calls in this oh-so-busy life of a working/going to school/running a household on my own/volunteering at schools/carting around a growing hatchling... you know, my life of as a bohemian single mom.

Let's face it - when we get together with our friends in the 3-dimensional world, it's rarely a talking-stick ceremony about our deepest thoughts, fears and feelings. Although sometimes it is... and that is why I treasure the friends in my life that I do.
I find as I get older and grow more true to myself, I can let go of the dysfunctional friendships. I can let fall away, those ones with no goals, no grasp of my reality. The gossips, the sad jealous, and those who rely on alcohol and weed dependency to fool themselves into thinking their lives are real and wonderful. Superficiality is not my idea of truth and does not make for a genuine friendship.
Authenticity baby! It's what I teach my daughter every day.

That said, I've found so many friends I can relate to through this fabulous world of blogging. I think the world we live in is fascinating. Because of the internet I've crossed paths with kindreds , some as far away as the other side of the planet, that I've formed friendships, connected with some of you in "real life", and through regular emails and even phone calls. People I otherwise would've never come into contact with. It's pretty depressing to think that all my friendships would have to consist of people I meet in my small-boring-not-very-artsy town.

So a field of daisies to you all, and a thank you for reading my deepest truths spilled in cyber-space; and for continuing to read my blog when I'm oh-so-terrible at returning comments. With summer here, as is evident around blog land, online activity has slowed down a bit. I'm sure we're all busy and those of us with kids out of school are running at a much faster pace these days.
But I will integrate a blog-visiting routine...as this is an important creative outlet for me.

One more thing...I will be in Toronto during the week of July 27th. I know I've spoken with some of you about this, but I'm putting it out there...any of you Toronto people who want to get together for coffee, just let me know, or email me and we'll set something up. Something of a blogapalooza. (I may even check out if Jamie's holding a dreamboard workshop around that time).
peace

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls.” ...Howard Thurman